This is the beginning of an amazing journey. I want to give you the most valuable gift. I want to give you freedom from your old reality and from the self. I help you to become a Nezman. Nezman is the king of his or her universe. Nezman has no fear, regret, or shame. He or she is full of love for self and others.
This blog belongs to those who want to question everything and rebuild their belief systems brick by brick on the most reliable foundations. Those who want to understand how their personal reality (their personal universe) is constructed. Nez was my teacher. I share with you his ideas through a blog format. My attitude toward you is pure love the same way that Nez' attitude was toward me. This is a zero-sum game though. Only those who make it to the peak of this mountain will benefit from the blog's teachings. If you do not have time, focus, and hunger for it, do not step in this path. You will need open-mindedness, perseverance, focus, and intelligence to reach there and become the master of your own reality. It is not a part-time job, and not many would be able to reach there. To benefit the most, readers need to familiarize themselves with the definitions of certain words that are used in this blog (in definition section).

8/11/2018

You Fall in Love with Your Own Self-Made Constructs: What Makes Your Object of Affection Desirable Is Inside You

Love at the first sight? Infatuation? You meet someone, and immediately you feel strong attraction toward that person. How much of what you see and love is out there, and how much of it is inside you? How much of what you feel toward the object of your affection is really coming from that object? What increases your heart rate when you see the object of your affection?
You receive very little information from the person, yet huge constructions are made. Negligible bottom-up flow of information gives rise to sizable desirable constructions, but a lot comes from you (and not the person). Your past memories and interpretive L3 lenses transform small input into glamorous constructions. These lenses are so powerful that small input can create an idol. In fact, you fall in love with your own self-made constructs.
Many times, L3 lenses create false associations by overgeneralization. L3 lenses store your own golden ratios (proportions that you find beautiful because of your W1 body or because of acquired taste through past associations).
Every memory associated with pleasure and beauty creates a lens that affects your future interpretations. These small lenses melt together and form a bigger lens.
Every single thing that you want and find attractive is a package of attributes that in your memory (and your lenses) are associated with pleasure. Every new memory of pleasure is a chain that creates a new goal lens (desire lens).
In fact, the more powerful your memory, the more your future is taken hostage by the pleasurable and painful memories of past experiences. Every generalization or glamorization is an automatic outcome of such organic lenses. Nezman digs deep into making of W2 lenses (L2, L1, and L3 lenses) in order to take control of autopilot mechanism that gives rise to tastes and exaggerated constructs.

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