You Fall in Love with Your Own Self-Made Constructs: What Makes Your Object of Affection Desirable Is Inside You

Love at the first sight? Infatuation? You meet someone, and immediately you feel strong attraction toward that person. How much of what you see and love is out there, and how much of it is inside you? How much of what you feel toward the object of your affection is really coming from that object? What increases your heart rate when you see the object of your affection?
You receive very little information from the person, yet huge constructions are made. Negligible bottom-up flow of information gives rise to sizable desirable constructions, but a lot comes from you (and not the person). Your past memories and interpretive L3 lenses transform small input into glamorous constructions. These lenses are so powerful that small input can create an idol. In fact, you fall in love with your own self-made constructs.
Many times, L3 lenses create false associations by overgeneralization. L3 lenses store your own golden ratios (proportions that you find beautiful because of your W1 body or because of acquired taste through past associations).
Every memory associated with pleasure and beauty creates a lens that affects your future interpretations. These small lenses melt together and form a bigger lens.
Every single thing that you want and find attractive is a package of attributes that in your memory (and your lenses) are associated with pleasure. Every new memory of pleasure is a chain that creates a new goal lens (desire lens).
In fact, the more powerful your memory, the more your future is taken hostage by the pleasurable and painful memories of past experiences. Every generalization or glamorization is an automatic outcome of such organic lenses. Nezman digs deep into making of W2 lenses (L2, L1, and L3 lenses) in order to take control of autopilot mechanism that gives rise to tastes and exaggerated constructs.

Meanings Change as Points of View Change

Depending on your point of view, the meanings change. A preferable state for one person can be an undesirable state for another person. This is a cause of never-ending contradiction and confusion for an imaginative perceiver.
For instance, being rich (or being a king) has different meanings from different viewpoints. For the rich, having wealth means security, power, and ability to fulfill their preferences. For the poor, it is hoarding of valuable resources that could have been used to serve many (instead of one). It can be construed as indifference to the suffering of the poor.
An unimaginative, narrow-minded, or selfish observer is blind to the third-party's viewpoint and cannot feel such contradiction and confusion; therefore, he or she remains more focused on selfishly pursuing his or her own preferences (ignoring others' preferences and well-being). That's why psychopaths are very successful in pursuit of their own self-interest.

Laws, Social Norms, and Morality Are Designed to Hide the War of Preferences

Societies deny and cover the hidden war of preferences and hide the conflicts of wills. Mass denial engenders more harmony and empathy in the society. Such denial used to create more harmony in the past (for instance when Christianity was more dominant), but as capitalism and materialism prevailed, it became harder to encourage empathy among competitors in a so-called free market. Denying the war of preferences gives advantage to those who are free from morality and conscience. They can gain advantages by cheating and secretly violating the laws, norms, and moral codes. That's why most successful politicians are psychopaths who have no sense of guilt or conscience. They gain their preferences of power and wealth by unethical means. If every member of society was as free as they are from social norms and morality, chaos and fierce competition would have ensued. Morality and social norms are chains that bring harmony and provide systematic advantages for the group that establish those rules. Throughout history, different groups established and controlled those rules. For instance, religious leaders such as Popes had this role when the church ruled the Europe in the Middle Ages. After industrialization, those who controlled mass media and those who controlled legislative system (the lobbyists and frontman of capitalists) controlled laws, social norms, and morality.

Metaphor Therapy

Every person lives in a constructed reality (the mechanism that constructs personal reality will be explained in depth in this blog). A person experiences a self-made reality; however, the person who is immersed in this experience fails to see the mechanism that constructs the realty (like a fish that can’t see water). It is difficult to understand the machine that gives rise to understanding itself. Metaphors are tools that can help a person to comprehend the unexplainable. Though, understanding a concept through metaphors needs powerful imagination. Once the concept of X was understood, one can detach oneself from the experience and gain control over the experience of the reality. In fact, whenever one experiences the abyss, one can shatter the solidity of that reality by remembering that all are constructions, and whenever one experiences bliss, one can intensify the experience of that reality by forgetting about the mechanism.
Depression is imprisonment in a extremely solid reality. For the depressed, the outcome of X is ugly and meaningless (full of scenarios of future pain and suffering). The cause of depression is either in W1 body (hardware malfunction rooted in your physiology) or in W2 body (software malfunction rooted in your psychology and your belief system).
Metaphor therapy, which provides a deep understanding about the machinery of X, can enable an individual to shatter the solidity of that horrible reality. Treating depression by metaphor therapy takes a long-time and intense intellectual labor. Metaphor therapy is an ideal treatment for intelligent individuals. Nevertheless, it is a bumpy road because, at first, it makes every reality an illusion. This creates a serious crisis (accompanied by pessimism or nihilism). Later, when the person gained a deeper understanding of X, he or she becomes equipped with tools and criteria to separate different realities from one another. Finally, the person learns how to evaluate any experienced reality. The person learns to analyze the components of W1 and W2 bodies, and eventually gains power over the outcome of that constructed reality. For Nezman, depression is one persistent illusion (where the stream of reality gets stuck on one reality).

Religions and Mass Depression

Nobody knows what lies beyond death (and what happens to consciousness after death). Nobody has the needed capacity and tools to fully understand what God and the whole universe are. We live in an ocean of uncertainty. Science provides minuscule certainty through the use of experiments and our experiences. Science is a small candle in the dark, and a great portion of unknown is left to be filled up with our imagination. Most religions have tried to fill up the unknown and uncertainty with some comforting scenarios. Religions have been perfecting their stories for thousands of years. Many brilliant religious thinkers have hidden contradictions and flaws of those stories (and scenarios of future). However, the changes in our lifestyle in the recent centuries have been so quick and so dramatic that most religions fell behind in updating their justifications.
One root of mass depression is that the scenarios of future proposed by existing religions are not beautiful, comfortable, and believable as they were once. The modern society needs more believable and more exciting scenarios of future. People’s imagination is expanding so quickly that soon, nothing short of becoming a god would satisfy them. The everyday reality has become so mundane, repugnant, and intolerable that people prefer to escape to virtual realities and fantasy. Capitalism has become a religion. An inefficient religion that creates beautiful, but short-lived, reality. A religion that denies death, and when its contradictions emerge, it turns into nihilism.

Depression Is Persistent Scenarios of Future Pain and Suffering

Depression is a persistent illusion. A depressed person lives in a universe (or hell) full of fear of future scenarios of pain. Bad experiences of the past construct an illusory scenarios of future pain, ugliness, or meaninglessness. A depressed person forgets the fact that future is unknowable and changeable. A depressed person does not know that mastery of X can turn hells to heavens.

For Nezman, Nothing Is Real, and Everything Is Real

Nezman knows that the reality is constructed. This knowledge will cause deep internal contradictions. On the one hand, every construction becomes an illusion (with differing degrees of affinity to W1). On the other hand, Nezman should enjoy the stream of reality as if it was a concrete reality. In a smaller scale many do it everyday (for instance, a person may suspend disbelief when watching a Sci-Fi movie in order to enjoy it).
One implication of shallow understanding of X is that everything becomes constructions and seemingly unreal. The border between real and unreal disappears. Everything becomes just degrees of illusions.
However, after Nezman gains mastery over X, all constructions become real. Nezman learns that the ultimate reality and truth lies beyond any constructed reality. The truth may even lie beyond the machine that constructs reality. Nezman learns the truth lies beyond time and space (and out of any construction). For Nezman, truth is not frightening because it is beyond constructed reality (emotions are part of X). Nezman look forward to meeting the truth, but in the meantime gains mastery over constructions and illusions. For Nezman, nothing is real, and everything is real. For Nezman, negative emotions are unreal. Nezman laughs at calamity as if he or she is touring a horror house in Disneyland.

Extreme Selfishness Leads You to Philanthropy

Selfishness is a virtue; not knowing the self is a vice. Selfishness creates a strong urge to pursue your preferences, but shortsighted and blind selfishness deprive you of achieving more valuable preferences. Blind selfishness fails to reap the fruits of love.
It may seem strange that extreme selfishness leads you to love. Only having the attitude of love (wanting others to reach their ultimate preferences and beautiful experiences) can enable you to reach your highest experiences. If you do not love the world and others, it will be hard for you to imagine that the world and others love you. The feelings between you and the external world (the world and people in it) are mutual. If you regard the world and people in it as hateful and ugly, you live in a nightmare. You should love others and make a better world for everyone in order to reach your highest experiences. Empathy is inevitable for the imaginative. After knowing the self and one’s ultimate preferences, an extremely selfish person realizes his or her preferences cannot be reached without fulfillment of others’ preferences.

The Difinition of God in 3 Realms

Student: What is God?
Nez: God in which realm?
In W1 realm, the God (if it exist separate from us) is unknowable. In fact, everything in W1 is unknowable. We can register some W2 impressions (on the surface of our bubble) of W1 entities. The God as a W1 entity is unknowable. We construct some models of W1 entity in W2 by the help of our primitive evolutionary common sense. We use weak tools of inductive and deductive reasoning (as well as principle of uniformity of nature) to make such models, and we forget how unreliable these tools are.
In W2 Realm, gods are W2 descriptions of some unknowable W1 entities. They are just a bunch of attributes, mostly contradictory, anthropomorphic, and primitive. Millions of images of god have been created in this way, and they are just some man-made illusions that are evolving over time.
In W3 Realm, those powerful and divine W2 images give rise to unique extreme religious experiences (the experience of god). It is natural that W2 image of infinity give rise to powerful experiences of fear, joy, or ecstasy.

Nez’ Metaphor Try to Explain Something Unexplainable

Some concepts are ahead of their time, and some are difficult to understand because need powerful imagination. More than a century has passed since Einstein's theories of relativity replaced all previous descriptions of physical world, yet many educated people cannot understand his theories and their implications. To understand the implications of his theories, you need some fundamental knowledge and powerful imagination. Einstein’s theories of relativity introduced new mathematical equations and new models to describe the physical world. A descriptions that seem unnatural to common sense. Nez’ metaphors to describe X are of the same nature. They describe something complex, profound, and unnatural. You should patiently learn the basics and let your imagination fly in order to grasp the most important concept of your life, namely X.

Organizing Your Preferences

Everything has preferences and desires. Even matter and energy as constituents of life have certain preferences and desires. Having preferences and desires is inevitably a part of the existence and life. It is not our job to suppress our preferences and desires, but to make them more beautiful. We can pursue fulfillment of preferences and desires that their outcomes are beautiful. It is a pragmatic approach to choose preferences and desires that have the most desirable results for the self and others. If following one desire contradicts our other desires, then there is a problem. Our genius is to find ways to satisfy our desires, as well as those of others. Though it seems like an impossible mission, it could be one important pragmatic goal for humanity.

Quantity Gives Rise to Quality; This Is the Ultimate Miracle

The real miracle happens where quantity gives rise to quality. When beams of light enter your eyes and create the experience of color red. When certain touches become the experience of orgasm. When a chemical becomes a taste. This is the boundary of three realms. Mystery is the gateway of experience where W1 and W2 give rise to W3. The qualitative W3 experience is the most miraculous and mysterious.

Money Is a Tool to Exchange Potential Preferable Experiences

We use currencies to buy and sell things, but the ultimate things that are exchanged are preferences of the two parties involved in the exchange. We use money or other means of exchange to facilitate the trade of our preferences. Money makes fulfillment of some preferences possible.
In fact, by exchanging money, you give the potential of fulfillment of your preferences to someone else. You are buying a product or service in order to make a preferable change in your W1 body or W2 body. For instance, you buy an air conditioner to keep your body temperature (W1 preference) at your desirable level, or you buy insurance policy because you think that you are more prepared for unexpected future events (W2 preference).
The ultimate goals lie in W3. When you donate money, you provide W1 preferences for others in exchange for W2 preferences for yourself. When you buy a beautiful painting, you buy a W1 composition that can strike a chord with certain W2 compositions inside you and make you feel good.
Any currency’s ultimate goal is to exchange preferred qualitative experiences.

We Have Tax Brackets, but We Don’t Have Philanthropy Bracket or Selfishness Brackets

W1 has its own sets of mathematics (certain W1 mathematics describe the physical world). W2 and W3 have their own sets of mathematics, but thoughts, meanings, and feelings are not easily quantifiable. W2 and W3 mathematics are personal, yet people have a lot in common.
Our current socioeconomic system completely ignores W2 and W3 mathematics. Tax system, for instance, has a lot of mathematical formula for calculating tax. Tax is not a loose term, but philanthropy is a loose term. We have tax brackets, but we don’t have philanthropy brackets, selfishness brackets, love brackets, or hate brackets. Why philanthropy shouldn't be well defined mathematically. What percentage of philanthropist’ asset was donated and how it served others’ preferences. Philanthropy is also a mathematical relationship between the value of fulfillment of your own preferences and those of others’ preferences. Why selfishness shouldn't be bracketed. Why hate shouldn’t be bracketed? Why shouldn’t companies, billionaires, and millionaires who are hiding behind trusts (and various means to conceal their wealth) not be evaluated by selfishness brackets?
Our current socioeconomic system encourages winner-takes-it-all attitude. Winner takes it all is also a mathematical relationship. Capitalism is a machine that generates wealth, but by some adjustments, it can spread the wealth more beautifully. Currently, a minority enjoys capitalism’s wealth disproportionately. Different adjustments such as higher tax may spread the generated wealth to majority. Even if such adjustments make the whole system less efficient, still the whole system could be much more beautiful.
There is a mathematics of beauty. The feeler has some inclination toward certain proportions. There are some golden ratios for our species. Historically, the ancient and native tribes used to invade other tribes if they become disproportionately wealthy. Some proportions are ugly or intolerable, and some proportions are preferable. People can reach a consensus about the mathematics of beauty. For instance, no human being under any circumstances should own more than y times of the poorest. The minority of winners (who take it all) justifies inequality by the benefits of the system, but nothing can justify ugliness. Many beautiful systems can be devised. Even if such socioeconomic systems have lower efficiency), they provide much better human experiences for the majority. Nezman accepts inequality, but extreme inequality is ugly by any standard.

You Decide What Is Fair, and No One Judges You Other Than Yourself

Nature is not fair. Physics is not fair. W1 reality is not fair. Fairness is a decision that you make. Fairness is a W2 meaning. Fairness is not out there in W1. Fairness is one interpretation of the feeler judging certain W1 or W2 compositions. Fairness is a preference of the feeler based on unique W1 and W2 bodies (and no one has the right to judge the feeler). As people vary in W1 and W2, their definition of fairness also varies.
Nezman knows there is no absolute fairness yet tries to create the most beautiful balance between preferences of the self and the preferences of others.

Only One Thing Is More Important Than Reality: The Entity That Constructs Reality

Nez: Only one thing is more important than reality: the entity that constructs reality. The mysterious and unknown mechanism that creates reality is more important than the reality itself. The stream of reality is a forgotten miracle. People take experiences for granted. They do their best to get the most desirable experiences without thinking about ontology of experiences. However, an even bigger mystery is the entity or mechanism that makes such experiences possible. This is the ultimate question mark. This is the most mysterious question in the universe. For a person who consciously or unconsciously does one’s best to get the best experiences, the most important questions are: how the most qualitative experiences are created. Perhaps we never know where it comes from, yet we create our own beautiful version of the unknown.

Religions Create Feelings of Shame and Guilt by Using Your Imagination Against You

Religions create feelings of shame and guilt by using your imagination against you. Most religions (especially Abrahamic religions) introduce a god that judges you. The concept of such a god is indoctrinated into you mind, and it creates an eye in sky that watches your actions (even your private thoughts). These constructions (god, conscience, and so on) seem independent entities, but they are all created by you. Your powerful imagination has constructed such judging entities inside your bubble. However, in reality you are the one who is judging yourself. You are the creator of feeling of shame and guilt for yourself.
Nezman knows that the concept of god has been an evolving construction in mankind's individual and collective mind. Nezman knows all of these are some illusions: your constructed image of God, the image of you in eyes of that god, and your feeling of shame and guilt. Nezman breaks free from all these illusions.

Disillusionment of Love: You Glamorize, Idolize, and Worship a Person Because of Your Own Pleasure

You glamorize, idolize, and worship a person because of your own pleasure. You receive such an addictive and pleasurable feelings from that illusion that you ignore all negative real feedbacks that suggest that your idol is not perfect (and sometimes is even grotesquely flawed). The real problem is that you do not want to let that beautiful illusion disappear because those illusions are the source of your comfort. But a healthy reaction would be that you separate the person from the ideal beauty that that person was representing in your mind. In other words, you should separate W1 person from the W2 image of that person in your mind. You should tell yourself "that I still love the beautiful image of that idol that I created in my mind (W2 image), but that person (W1 entity) was not even close to the idol that I really love. I will continue to search for such an idol" and " I am thankful that the flawed person was a conduit that helped me to create such a beautiful W2 image, but I avoid this person from now on because If I keep in touch with such a flawed person, I enter the realm of love and hate."
Why the realm of love and hate? Because after disillusionment, you start to focus on the flaws. This flawed idol makes you angry, confused, or even mad. On the one hand, you love that idol because it has been a source of addictive pleasure for you for such a long time. On the other hand, you hate that person because he or she caused you pain. This person destroyed parts of your castle of thoughts, your self-confidence, and your self-image. You blame yourself and doubt your own sound judgment because you chose such a flawed person. Moreover, all these make you pessimistic toward your future relationships. Continuing to see the flawed person destroys the perfect mental idol that you have created. You need to keep that standard of beauty (and the image of an angel) as an aspiration for your future relationships and as a beacon of hope for future. After all, these dreams and hopes (even illusions) are our only source of extreme pleasure and hope. Even unrealistic dreams can serve us. Many times, we dream the world, as we want it to be, not as it is. However, if we easily proved wrong, we suffer much more.

We Tend to Interpret the World in Ways That Give Us the Greatest Comfort and Pleasure

Nez: We live in a constructed reality created by our W1 body (our hardware, biology, and so on) and W2 body (our software, belief systems, and other tools that we use to interpret the world). We tend to automatically interpret the world in ways that give us the greatest comfort and pleasure often at the expense of contradicting L2/W2 (the scientific objective reality).
For instance, people believe in religions because religions give them comfort, yet no religion has any evidence or proof for its metaphysical claims. The younger and the more imaginative you are, the greater this effect is.
The same is true when you glamorize, idolize, and worship a person. You do it because of your own pleasure. You receive such an addictive and pleasurable feelings from that illusion that you ignore all negative real feedbacks that suggest that your idol is not perfect (and is even grotesquely flawed). The real problem is that you do not want to let that beautiful illusion disappear because those illusions are the source of your comfort.

Metaphor of Robot

You are a robot with inner experience. Your reality is the product of your unique hardware and software. Manipulating your hardware is difficult. For instance, drugs and alcohol alter your hardware, and in turn, alter your reality and your experiences in it. Software is flexible, but changing it needs education, meditation, and imagination. A Robot that becomes self-aware and free if it can rewrite its own codes. Imagine you want to weld and repair an electric generator, but you want to do it by using the same electricity it generates. How such a thing possible?
All in all, updating software means updating reality.

Hope Is a Promise of Future Meaning and Future Pleasure

Happiness means living in a beautiful reality. A beautiful reality has a beautiful past, present, and future. A beautiful past is not necessarily devoid of suffering. The totality and meaning of the past should be beautiful. The present interpretations of the past should be beautiful.
Hope is a promise of future meaning and future pleasure. The extreme happiness is not possible without the hope of future meaning and pleasure. Where the future is unknown and death is a mystery, hope is not attained effortlessly.

In Order to Change the Reality and Feelings of This Moment, All Interpretations of The Past and Future Should be Revised

What is II (integrated image)? II is the total outcome of W2 and W1 that is put in front of the feeler. II is the raw input that gives rise to qualitative experiences of the feeler. In II, the past, present, and future have the same power. They are mixed together to help construct II to entertain or torture the feeler. For the feeler, the scenarios (illusions) of the past and future are as important as the perception and sensation of now.
Why do I call them illusions of the past and future? Because past memories are mostly emotionally charged and distorted. They are false interpretations (L3/W2) and have no use in serving the feeler in future. Future is also unknown. It is a mystery waiting to be unfolded. A future that is predicted based on (and as continuation of) false past interpretations is doomed to be an illusion. Many individuals are prisoners of realities that constructed by illusions of the past or the illusions of the future.
Nezman knows that the present is the most real, the past is half-accurate at best, and the future is unknown. Nezman knows that in order to change the reality and feeling of this moment, all interpretations of the past and future should be revised.

Love Prefers Equality and Hate Engenders Huge Inequality

Nez: Regarding someone as equal to the self is an attitude of love. If you consider fulfillment of someone’s preferences as important as fulfillment of your own preferences, you have an attitude of love and respect toward that person. However, wishing inequality or creating inequality is a hateful attitude. Slavery is an example of a hateful attitude (and selfishness).
Nezman prefers equality much more than inequality. Nezman finds golden ratios between self’s fulfillment of preferences and others’ fulfillment of preferences. For Nezman, absolute equality is unnecessary and meaningless, but huge inequality is ugly and cruel.

Existing Languages Fail to Describe 3 Realms

Our languages have evolved organically. Languages are W2 entities that try to describe W1 and serve our W3 preferences. Our existing languages are inefficient tools in describing 3 realms. We need a new language (with new vocabulary) in order to describe X and the three realms successfully. One day such a language will come, but in the meantime, I have coined new words and metaphors in order to convey the meanings effectively. New vocabulary and metaphors help you understand yourself, 3 realms, and your reality.

The Bombardment of Useless and Irrelevant Information

The bombardment of information and variety of ideas does not let people choose their own belief systems. An ordinary person with a full-time job neither has the expertise nor the needed time to evaluate and choose one’s own belief system. The first thing you should do is to protect yourself against the bombardment of useless and irrelevant information. The limitation of your W1 and W2 bodies leaves no room for useless and irrelevant information. A useless information is something that does not serve the feeler. For instance, most information that is broadcasted through mass media is aimed at controlling masses and swaying them toward the agenda’s of ruling class that serves the interest of a minority.
The knowledge that serves the feeler is understanding how your feelings are created and how they are controlled. To this end, you should learn about the existence of the feeler and the machinery of X. To understand X, you need to understand three realms, three layers of W2, and the metaphor of hologram lens. Then you will understand how miraculously the feeler evaluates W1 and W2 compositions and gives rise to your qualitative experiences.
The knowledge of X is your first priority. The knowledge of X is the foundation of your castle of thoughts. Learning the 3 layers of W2 will help you categorize ideas based on their use. You will learn how to draw a distinction between the ideas that accurately describe W1, the ideas that are concocted by W2 machinery (and have no root in W1), and the ideas that serve the feeler.
Nezman categorizes importing information and ideas meticulously. Nezman masterfully organizes and distinguishes between his or her own facts, interpretations, and values.